The truth about me and porn
In catching up with a close friend, I was asked a familiar question: "did you ever do that?" He was talking about porn after I made a joke about something and referenced 70s porn.Having been retired from the stripper world for over a decade, it's been a while since I was asked about those indelible x-rated lines and if I ever crossed them."FUCK NO!!""It's a fair question..."He was right.Grouping together all types of sex work is a natural thought. Although I never had sex as part of my stripping career, people assume because you sell it, even as a visual fantasy, you're doing it. Stripping is sex work. It's a living, breathing Playboy Magazine, (or Penthouse, if you're near the airport), and I see nothing wrong with peeps who appreciate a beautiful woman, grabbing her ankles in the nude. I don't even see anything wrong with prostitution or adult films - if all parties are adults, and happy.Did I know gals who crossed the stripping line to porn? Sure. But that was their business and I didn't think any less of them. It just wasn't for me.In the nude clubs where I worked in Hawaii, there was no table dancing allowed. I didn't have to touch anyone, let alone feel their Mr. Happy during a dance. There were no lap-dances, no VIP rooms. All our money was made on stage in tips, and if we had a customer who wanted to buy us champagne or a cocktail, we'd sit and shoot the shit with them. Most of my big-ticket nights were due to my ability to ham it up with customers, drinking champagne, and making them laugh. In a sea of naked centerfolds, personality really did go a long way.In talking more with my friend, I had a thought:
People assume shit all the time - and not just in the stripping world.
.How many of us have seen a heavily tattooed person and instantly made a judgment? There are a million scenarios where we may assume things based on what we experience that may or may not be true.I'm happy my friend felt comfortable enough to ask me if I ever did porn. It shows his level of trust and respect for me, and after I checked my judgment at the door with my knee-jerk "fuck no!" reaction, we enjoyed a good laugh.Everyone has a story - it's the people who ask about them without judgment, that open up an honest dialogue to help make the world a much more interesting and authentic place.Here's the part where you tell me: have you ever naturally assumed something about anyone only to learn you were off?